How To Get the Most Out of Therapy

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HOW DO I GET THE MOST OUT OF THERAPY?

Therapy can be expensive and take a lot of time, but there are things you can do to get the most out of therapy.  There are several key practices that can enhance the experience and make it more effective.

1. Be Honest and Open

Share your thoughts, feelings, and experiences candidly. Therapy works best when there is a full understanding of what you're going through.

If something feels uncomfortable or difficult to talk about, it's often a sign that it could be important to address.

2. Set Clear Goals

Think about what you hope to achieve from therapy. Whether it’s managing anxiety, healing from past trauma, or improving relationships, having a goal can guide the process.

Collaborate with your therapist to set realistic and actionable goals.

3. Commit to the Process

Therapy can take time, and progress may not be linear. Being patient with yourself and the process is crucial.

Attend sessions regularly and do the work outside of sessions, such as practicing strategies or reflecting on insights.

4. Build a Strong Therapeutic Alliance

A positive relationship with your therapist is one of the strongest predictors of successful therapy. If you feel safe, understood, and respected, you’ll likely get more out of it.

If you're not feeling connected to your therapist, it’s okay to bring it up or even consider finding a better match.

5. Engage with the Therapist's Feedback

Therapists offer insights and challenges to help you grow. Engaging with their feedback and applying it to your life is critical.

If something doesn't resonate with you, talk it over with your therapist to understand why.

6. Embrace Vulnerability

Therapy often involves exploring deep, sometimes painful emotions. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable opens the door to deeper healing and growth.

It's okay to feel uncomfortable—often, that discomfort is part of the healing process.

7. Reflect and Apply What You Learn

After sessions, take time to reflect on what was discussed and how it applies to your life.

Practice new skills or coping strategies in your day-to-day life to reinforce what you’re learning in therapy.

8. Communicate About Your Needs

If you feel like the focus of the sessions is not aligned with your goals, bring it up with your therapist. Therapy should be a collaborative experience, and your input is essential.

If there are specific issues or topics you'd like to explore, make them known.

9. Be Patient With Yourself

Change can take time, and it’s normal to experience setbacks. Recognize that therapy is a process, and self-compassion is key.

Celebrate small victories and acknowledge the effort you're putting in, even when the progress feels slow.

10. Do the Homework

Therapists often provide exercises, readings, or practices to do between sessions. These are designed to reinforce what you're working on.

Committing to these tasks will help solidify the work you're doing in therapy.


To make the most out of your therapy, take an active role in the process—be open, set clear goals, and commit to your growth. Your mental health journey is personal and unique, but you don’t have to walk it alone. If you’re ready to dive deeper and explore your personal path toward healing and growth, reach out today. Whether it's through your current therapist or seeking support at Connections Counseling, every conversation can be the beginning of meaningful change.